Regardless of whether or not your love language is physical touch, holding hands can go a long way in rekindling your relationship.

Never underestimate the power of a physical connection when strengthening your overall relationship. 

Holding hands has become a non-negotiable in my life. I’ve had plenty of relationships where this wasn’t something we did as a couple. Now that I have it with my partner, I’ll never be in another relationship where holding hands isn’t something we do. 

This type of physical connection brings intimacy and trust to your dynamic. It promotes a sense of well being and safety overall. Holding hands helps you keep pace with each other and keeps you in close proximity to each others’ aura with a direct line of energy linking the two of you. 

Even images of couples holding hands provokes more emotion and feeling in what you visually see. When that is brought into your own dynamic, the emotion is felt. 

What if this is something you want in your relationship but not high on your partner’s priority list? 

I’ve been there too! There are a few things you can do:

  • Recognize that the significance of holding hands will be different for each individual and that’s okay. 
  • Ask your partner to hold your hand next time you’re out on a date. Just remember that if this isn’t your normal routine, it may mean “for this time only” to your partner. Thank them and let them know it made you feel special or whatever word you would use. 
  • Be okay with being uncomfortable if this is new. Asking is vulnerable for you, saying yes may be vulnerable for your partner. 
  • Ease into it. You start by holding hands once, then again, then again, and if it’s right for both of you it could become something you do without even noticing it. 

Always express your gratitude. This is true both when they respond by holding your hand or don’t and have a conversation about it. The vulnerability and conversation can be the key to connection that was needed even if physically holding hands isn’t included. “Thank you for explaining that to me” is a beautiful way of showing gratitude for conversation. 

Also remember that you’ve planted a seed. Sometimes simply requesting to hold hands can bring a feeling of being wanted, and you never know how far that will go.

Until next time,

Tonya Marie

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